5 Things To Learn About Lovemaking from Porn | Psychology Today

Paul Joannides, author of the world’s most popular (contemporary) sex guide and Psychology Today sexuality blogger, has a post that pairs nicely with today’s anti-porn feature in the Sunday CBC (Canadian Broadcasting Corporation) Radio program. Someday we will see balanced and objective presentation of adult entertainment. I just seem to have a growing list of astroturfed media outlets we won’t be seeing unbiased reporting from… Here’s a snip from Joannides’ great article. His video is above. I’m working on a page expanding on the healthy uses for pornography and this will be part of it — so this is also an open call for your suggestions.

With parents having their heads in the sand and abstinence-only sex education ruling the day, the primary source of sex education for today’s young has become porn on the Internet.

Until now, the people who have been addressing this less-than-opitmal situation are anti-porn purity crusaders and sex addiction aficionados, with their usual fear-based and shame-creating thunder. (Let’s see… porn is more addictive than crack cocaine, it’s the cause of half of all divorces, it’s resulting in the end of masculinity, and it’s created a generation of porn zombies who only emerge from their computer stroke-fests long enough to stock up on energy drinks and lotion.)

My sense is that technological leaps have allowed 11-year-olds to watch porn while their parents remain terrified to engage them in anything that even begins to approach an open and honest conversation about sex and lovemaking. Porn is not going anywhere, so the need is greater than ever to talk to our young about the differences between sex in real life versus sex in porn.

I also think the only effective way to do this is on the Internet, where the flavors of the day are YouTube and Facebook. The problem is that these are mediums of young people who still appreciate seeing each other light their farts.

The disparity in my age does not make me the most likely of YouTube candidates. On the other hand, when I watch the various twenty-somethings try to do sex education, it becomes oh so apparent that thirty years of experience is not such a bad thing! And so I just taped my first YouTube video on porn titled: 5 Things to Learn about Lovemaking from Porn.

via 5 Things To Learn about Lovemaking from Porn | Psychology Today.

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Violet Blue (tinynibbles.com) is a Forbes "Web Celeb," a high-profile tech personality and one of Wired's "Faces of Innovation." She is regarded as the foremost expert in the field of sex and technology, a sex-positive pundit in mainstream media (MacLife, The Oprah Winfrey Show, others) and is regularly interviewed, quoted and featured prominently by major media outlets. Violet has many award-winning, best selling books; her book The Smart Girl's Guide to Porn is featured on Oprah's website. She was the notorious sex columnist for the San Francisco Chronicle. She headlines at conferences ranging from ETech, LeWeb and SXSW: Interactive, to Google Tech Talks at Google, Inc. The London Times named Blue one of the 40 bloggers who really count (2010). Violet Blue is in no way associated with the unauthorized use of her name (or likeness) and registered trademark in pornographic films.
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