Lady Porn Day and Cambridge Porn Debate Results

Read more about today’s celebration of women taking back the right to look at pornography Lady Porn Day here and below in this post, which is a politely edited re-post from (NSFW) TinyNibbles.com.

Sex academic, teacher, SFSI volunteer and sex educator Jessi Fischer beat Gail Dines last week in a room packed with academics at Cambridge.

Cambridge University Union Society decides porn is a ‘good public service’ (deseretnews.com):

A heated debate about whether pornography provides “a good public service” ended late Thursday in the historic hall of the Cambridge University Union Society with Cambridge students voting 231 to 187 in favor of the motion, according to the U.K. Press Association.

* If you’re not familiar with Dines and Co. take a minute to get up to speed here. Also: all writing on Gail Dines.

Today, February 22, 2011 is Lady Porn Day, and it is being celebrated in a massive way around the Internet and the world. I think that pondering the anti-porn takedown by a pro-porn sex educator is very fitting as we turn a wheel in the revolution.

Lady Porn Day February 22, 2011Women are taking back the right to look at porn, the right to make and enjoy and share porn – but this has not gone unchallenged. Women like Dines (and Shelley Lubben) have built careers (and astonishingly, extra credit classes at universities) to prevent women from doing the single most powerful thing they can do about pornography, wherever they stand on the topic: the right to speak freely about it.

But they can’t stop the internet, and that’s where we’ve been talking about porn and comparing ideas, feelings, notes and questions – and facts – about porn for ten years strong*. I’m not saying Dines and Co. are censoring women’s ability to talk about porn; they can’t.

I am saying that Dines and Co. have purposely created, fostered and maintained an environment that is hostile to challenge, and therefore actively campaigns against discussions of pornography that are not their own.

They shut us up by shaming us and scaring us with threatening displays of sexuality. Pretty basic and effective tactic.

And to this effect, Dines and Co. continually shut out and categorically ignore pro-porn women – the millions of us, and those who identify as feminist. We have all been edited out of the discussion.

But we have a right to figure out what porn is, and what porn means to us, on our own.

Don’t tell a woman what to think about her own sexuality. Just don’t.

And if you still have to make shit up to justify why you think you can tell us what we can and can’t do with sex, our bodies, and porn – just get out of our way.

So last week Fischer brought it, Dines was mean and rude, and Lubben made everyone sad with her crazy. When Cambridge voted that Fisher won the debate, Lubben abjectly Tweeted “Cambridge University made their choice for porn over Jesus Christ.” Indeed. Today Rabbit Write is making Lady Porn Day a huge, cool, and fun reality, and women all over the world are sharing their views on porn and talking about what is great and what is awful in and about porn. Yes, people are arguing about it on Twitter, but that’s great too. Actually, it’s really important.

It’s an open discussion. We deserve that. I mean, I like to look at the inverse proof on things. For instance, last week a same-sex couple were denied entrance to a creationist museum: two men purchased tickets to a tour and dinner, but were told they could not enter as a same-sex couple and were not refunded their money.

The punchline is that they were not “together” but were two men going as a pair. It seems to me that hosting gay couples would be a tremendous opportunity to “save” them in the eyes of god. What better way to show them that being gay is a sin than by bringing them into a prime showcase for conversion?

I apply the same thinking to women like Gail Dines who campaign and attempt to create movements with ideology rather than facts. The most powerful cults (the ones who get people to commit mass suicide) control the sexuality of their followers. It’s the most personal and effective non-violent way to claim power over another person.

You can literally get anyone to do anything if you have their belief and their sexuality in your pocket. Anti-porn crusaders don’t need facts because they have the key cult elements in place. Which is why we’ll never see Dines and Co. do the equivalent of hosting the gay couple in the creationist museum. (The pro-porn feminist in the henhouse, anyone?)

Use porn responsibly, enjoy it to the fullest. And no matter what you do, don’t stop talking about it, and don’t stop questioning anyone who tries to control what you think about it. The power to evaluate what is sexually right and wrong for ourselves, and what is sexually healthy for ourselves and our communities, is not just the final frontier for modern sexual freedom – it is necessary.


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About violet

Violet Blue (tinynibbles.com) is a Forbes "Web Celeb," a high-profile tech personality and one of Wired's "Faces of Innovation." She is regarded as the foremost expert in the field of sex and technology, a sex-positive pundit in mainstream media (MacLife, The Oprah Winfrey Show, others) and is regularly interviewed, quoted and featured prominently by major media outlets. Violet has many award-winning, best selling books; her book The Smart Girl's Guide to Porn is featured on Oprah's website. She was the notorious sex columnist for the San Francisco Chronicle. She headlines at conferences ranging from ETech, LeWeb and SXSW: Interactive, to Google Tech Talks at Google, Inc. The London Times named Blue one of the 40 bloggers who really count (2010). Violet Blue is in no way associated with the unauthorized use of her name (or likeness) and registered trademark in pornographic films.
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One Response to Lady Porn Day and Cambridge Porn Debate Results

  1. GC says:

    Great post! I love your blog and check it out every couple weeks.

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